Friday, March 4, 2022

Don't Get Quiet Now

 Last weekend I attended a little league basketball game. Since my kids are now older, I haven't been to a game in a while so when I first started going I got a quick reminder of how serious some parents get at these games. One parent stood out to me though. This parent's actions during the game caused me to say "I'm sure (child's name)' s daddy is getting on her nerves. Throughout the duration of the game, you can hear this parent coaching from the bleachers, constantly telling her what to do in the moment, pointing out her mistakes, and trying to prepare her for what to do next. This parent's voice could be heard throughout the entire game over everyone else's. Although it may not have been his intention, but this could have been humiliating and frustrating for her.

Now, I'm sure you may be saying this is normal. This is what parents/guardians do at the games. We coach our kids, even if it's from the bleachers, LOL. That was not my issue, although it was annoying to me, and I'll go ahead and speak for her so she won't get into trouble, as well as her. What was highly bothersome to me is that after the game was over this parent walked off of the bleachers, across the court, right past his child, without saying not one word to her. He didn't even look at her. Everything in me cringed at that moment. Ya'll know Auntie Pri love the kids.

How could a parent that had so much to say during the game, have nothing to say after the game? This child did her best, in my opinion. She continually hustled, went for rebounds, stole a couple balls, and even helped some of her teammates, and although they lost that didn't take away from her participation in the game. For me, after a loss I would expect to at least hear from the voice that I heard all game to say something like, "good game", "nice rebounds", "I saw you balling out there", heck say something or at least make eye contact with a head nod, but there was nothing. 

I'm not sure that it bothered the player, but it bothered me. It bothered me because at times we are not going to win, succeed, or accomplish what we set out to do even when we try our best. There are times when we will not get the results that we set out to get but we'll still need the same encouragement and motivation that we had while we were in the process. As bad as we may already feel we don't need to feel any worse. Can anyone relate? 

I believe that in these early years we begin to allow guilt, shame, embarrassment, and people-pleasing to take root in our lives. 

Lastly, I thought about our Heavenly Father and how He sees us, even when we fall short. 1 John 1:9, tells us "if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness". Additionally, when we are weak, 2 Corinthians12:9 states, "But he said to me, "my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness". 

See, we may not always get it right, but even when we don't our God is with us each and every step of the way, especially in our weak moments.